The Nuances of Pregnancy (Part 2)

Yes - I am discovering that there is even more that the books do not warn you about!  Like wedgies!  What are wedgies?  As a pregnant woman's body prepares for labor, her pelvis begins to stretch and her normal underwear no longer fits.  Lets just say, it is not fun to wake up every hour of the night to pick your undies out of your crack.  Then there is the pregnancy crawl.  As you get bigger, bending over is no fun.  So as you drop things, you stop to ponder.  "Is this going to pose potential harm to my pets?"  If not, you leave the item on the floor, until several items have fallen.  Then you revert to the crawl to pick everything up on floor level at one time.  So much easier on the knees and back then bending over 5 times a day.

Of course we cant end this post without another pee story.  The books should tell you to always wear a long sweater while pregnant in case you have the occasional leakage!  While shopping in Safeway the other day I experienced yet another awkward moment.  When I went into the store, I was fine. however seconds later I realized I had better leave the shopping cart and quickly find the restroom.  It came on so quick - no warning, and I didn't quite make it!  Thank goodness for long sweaters!  When I got home, I relayed the story to Dave and when I lifted my sweater he exclaimed: "What did you do that for?"  (Like I meant to do that)  yes I enjoy soiling myself in public places....not!  Anyways, my wise husband made a new rule......always go to the bathroom before you leave a place whether you feel like you have to go or not!  Good rule!  Should be in those pregnancy books!

Baby Stark - New picture

Baby at 27 weeks and 2 days!  She has her little hand in front of her cheek as if she is saying "no pictures please!"  Daddy and Mommy are so in love already!!  More great news.....Dave's brother and his wife are expecting as well!  How fun to have cousins so close in age... they are about 3 months behind us!

The Nuances of Pregnancy (What the books do not tell you!)

           I have been reading several books on pregnancy throughout the past few months, and I am discovering issues that none of the books will tell you!  First, they do not tell you to invest in more pillows!  I started with one.  Now, on certain nights I have 5-6 including a body pillow.  The books will not tell you to invest in a King size bed!  As you add more and more pillows, if you don’t have a king size bed – there in no longer room for your hubby!  The books do not tell you how quickly you will go through clothes.  I have several pairs of pants that fit me one week and by appearance should last another month or so.  However, when I have tried them on the following week they no longer fit!  It is shocking to me – how quickly your little baby bump can grow!

The last issue the books give a clue to…but don’t really indicate how embarrassing of a situation it can.  Urine leakage!  Yes the books do say to wear pads.  However, my stubborn nature has been determined to beat this issue of leakage.  (I know – after so many accidents – I should just give in.)  Overall I have been doing better with my control issues – so the other morning when I went for a walk I was quite confident no pad was needed.  The first part of the walk was successful, and when I felt a sneeze coming on – I stopped and prepared my body…..with no problems.  It was seconds later that another sneeze came on without warning….and there went the leakage.  Yes, it is uncomfortable to walk home with wet undies.  Yet, what is more awkward is having to walk by a group of construction workers with piddle marks!  I want to create a T-shirt that on the front says “Yes, I’m Pregnant…..”  and the back “and yes…that is piddle.”

Pictures finally here!

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Our kitty has decided the baby bump is a great pillow!!  It is now her favorite part to curl up against!

THANK YOU!!

This past Sunday, I had the privilege of sharing our miracle with our church family.  It was such a gift to hear them celebrate what God has done along with us.  For us, this journey is very communal. So many friends and family have walked along side us these past four years.    There were friends from around the world praying for us, sending us encouraging notes, scriptures, and standing with us in faith.  Friends who took time to sit (and cry) with us and encourage us in our moments of discouragement.  Friends who stood in hope in the moments we felt all hope was gone.   Family members who helped us deal with the overwhelming medical costs.  Firefighters who covered shifts so Dave could be with me.

There were friends that set apart their busy days and traveled with me to Seattle for doctor appointments, and stayed overnight with me when Dave had to work.  Friends that cleaned our house, and brought us dinners.   And amazing friends who endured looking at needles and my bright white skin and gave me shots when Dave was unavailable. 

So many of you have been a part of this journey, you have invested yourselves into our dream, our daughter and we can never thank you enough.

Our hope is that doing this journey with us has inspired and encouraged your hearts. That you are reminded that nothing is impossible with God and that you too would see your dreams become a reality!

With incredibly thankful hearts,

The Starks!    

Ultrasound Yesterday .....and it's a???

Yesterday we had our level 2 ultrasound which looks in detail at the baby!  The tech began by looking at the heart, then the baby's head and mouth then onto the spine.  Dave and I were just in awe watching every little detail of our baby.  We are still just overwhelmed that our miracle is finally here.  One of the last things the tech checked was the gender.  And its a......GIRL!!!  She even peed for us while we were checking to prove that no little boy part was there!  I'm so proud!  I was in tears and Dave was beaming from ear to ear.  Such a special moment for us.  I had felt all along that baby was a girl, and when we saw her on the ultrasound and the way her hands were cradling her little face in such a dainty way.... I knew it had to be a little girl.
I have always felt, even long before I got married that I would have a little boy.  While I am totally excited and loving this pregnancy, because of how hard it was to get pregnant, in the back of my mind I have feared that this would be our only one.  Hearing it was a little girl, I felt God placed a reassurance in my heart that there would be more babies!

So baby girl Stark...she will have her father wrapped around her finger!  Dave did inform me that even though she was a girl he planned on teaching her to hunt.  Thank goodness we have Jill in our lives to model a feminine hunter.  (Our beautiful friend is an amazing hunter and yet looks like she stepped out of a glamour magazine at the same time!)

Prayers for my friend

Would you please join me in prayer for my dear friend Kari.  She is a month ahead of me and at her ultrasound this week they could not find the babies kidney or bladder.  Kari has been such a wonderful support to me the past few years as we have been trying for baby Stark.  I have so loved being pregnant at the same time and enjoying this new journey with her.
When I heard her report from the doctor today my heart says "its not the end for this little one."  Please join your faith and prayers with ours and believe for a creative miracle for this family.